Not everyone that has been sexually abuse becomes permissive or turns to drugs, I say this because I was abused I don't even call it abused I was raped from the age of 3 years and it continued until I was 6 yrs old! But God gave me a strength and it didn't break my spirit or I thank God everyday that it didn't damage my soul and I thank prayer for my grand parents prayed over me since birth and that prayer covered me! And when I found Jesus for myself I prayed and now I help abused people I can see it in a childs face I can sesnse it! We have to pray that God cover these children and protect their mind, body and soul! And I know that we must teach our children to tell because the only power a pervert has over a child is silence if you tell they won't bother you! So teach our children that adults have no authority to tell them what to do and they don't want to hug or kiss a relative they dont have too and parents should never force them! We must educated our children about sex since they are able to speak! And must of we have to pray for the once being abused at this very moment! Just pray then pray some more! God bless you!

Iam a victim of sexual abuse, I have never turned to drugs or alcohol or anything harmful but a couple of months ago I just told my family I was abused as a young girl and come to find out I wasn't the only one, but now that iam older its still affecting me mentally when it comes to my relationship, bit I pray about it everyday not a day goes by I don't pray.

I by the grace of God didn't turn to drugs or alcohol either, but so many adult survivors that I have met over the years did. Unfortunately, I did look for "love" in all the wrong places because of what happened to me by my Father. Children, in a perfect world, should be able to trust their parents to protect them.

So true Ibis about silence. That is why I speak out now. However, 1964 was a different time and place for a nine year old to break the silence that her Father had done these things to her. There was no media covering any of this. The other thing for me was that my Father was a very abusive violent man who from the first night he woke me up with his hand over my mouth that he would kill me. Believe me, I believed him. I had seen him beat with his fist and torment my Mother too many times. He also beat myself and younger brothers with a
belt many times. He definitely had mental issues to go along with his evil nature.

Twenty long years I kept "the secret". Yet I never told my Mother who went on to divorce him when he left with another woman.

However, three years later I finally told him by phone when he came to town and was attempting to see me that I never forgot what he did to me and his reply was "Oh?". I then told him I thought it was best if he and I not maintain contact with him and that if he didn't bother me, I wouldn't bother him. That was our last conversation. That was 1987.

Then in 1995 it came to my attention that his oldest daughter from his third marriage had attempted suicide because of what he had done to her when she was a very young child. Still a pediphile. I made contact with her and she said he got arrested and had some counseling, but her Mother and two siblings still lived with him. I contacted the person involved with her case, but they said case closed and since my abuse had occurred 31 years before in a different state there was nothing they could do. I told her to tell her Mother and she continued to live with him till his death in 2010 at age 75.

So as you see more frequently than we know the perpetrator is the child's own parent. I have worked to help children by becoming involved with the Guardian ad Litem program that represents abused and neglected children in court. Usually there are other dynamics going on in the family.

My definition of sexually abused is all inclusive to cover rape as well as fondling or even sexual type remarks to a child.

Yes, I am thankful God was even then watching over me and I found comfort in thinking about the love of my Grandmother (who may or may not have been praying for me) as I wondered and I did pray to God about making this stop.

I did seek counseling after that, but what I have found over the years is that God has been healing those places of pain, the more that I have drawn closer to Him and have been redeemed by His Blood and washed by His Word. God bless you and "Married to Jesus.