Been there, best advice sis is let him go. God is ur example for a godly man & it sounds to me like he is controllong and that can turn into abuse. If u want to know forsure ask urself this, if u had a daughter would u let her date a guy like that? If ur answer is no, then he aint rt for u either. Our God is the giver of good gifts not mediocre ones. with the things of God even a guy or calling it always will come to u in a platter its not something u need to struggle to get or please to get, Its His good heart to bless u with it. If u entertain this guy, who obviously does not love u the way u deserve to be loved then how can God bring u the right man. It is written we shall not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases also paul says we r to b content in whatever state we r in. Plz dont make the mistake i once had made and i see my friends making cuz of lack of faith in God or just leaning on their own understanding, but dont compromise or settle for less u r royalty not somebodys property, not even Jesus has this control over u. Marriage with this guy wont wrk for many reasons one being his lack of honesty, he doesnt know how to love cuz he is not loved nor does he have a relationship with Christ. The list can go on & u urself know more than anyone that this is not love. Best thing i did was let go and closed everydoor cuz when i left one semi open, satan crept in and brought me down again so erase his number, dont answer his cAlls and throw away all photos, letter, and other things thT remind u of him. Plus if mr right is sent to u then u dont have to worry of explaining anything to him or hurting his feelings if he finds stuff from ur past wih him. I pray for ur protection cuz my ex was like him, guys that r like that turn out to b abusing not only physically but also mentally and emotionally. They r very manipulative. If we r in sin we bcome a slave to that sis. Best advice submit to God resist the devil and he will flee away. God has great things for u. Jeremiah 29:11 jeremiah 33:3 philippians 3:5-7 isaiah 54

Take that advice. As for being Thirty and not having been married. I was 40! You are still young! Still of child-bearing age, if that is your worry.

Thank you so much, I understand an will take all advice on board. I will keep been strong thankyou once again xo

Agreed!! God can give you the will to stay strong and the knowledge of when to walk away. I know I commented on your prayer before. My ex fiance was the same way. He would barely say anything about himself, only boastful things, but I wanted to keep a connection with him so I would always pour my heart out to him. He knew everything about me, but he was a stranger to me. Every now and again he would reply and I would hang on his every word. I would read his emails over and over, and analyze them, looking for hope or a sign that there was still a chance. So one day I tried to go see him again. I saved up my money and I was willing to go the distance. Then right before I booked the plane ticket he told me if I went to see him it would only be fun and nothing serious. To that I said no, I deserve more. He played with my feelings til the day he found out I was engaged to someone else. He made one last attempt by trying to apologize, but I knew it was too late. Sometimes people just can't make up for lost time, lies, abuse, empty promises. You are never too old to find love again and with someone who truly deserves you. Never settle for less.